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Kenyan author, Shailja Patel advises men to do ‘Vasectomy’ till they are ready to be responsible fathers
Shailja Patel, who is an internationally acclaimed Kenyan poet, playwright, theatre artist, and political activist has just shared a piece of advice for men to consider Vasectomy (a medical operation of cutting the tubes through which a man’s sperm move, in order to stop his partner getting pregnant) as an option till they are ready to be commited fathers.
In her words, ‘vasectomy is safe and reversible. Get one today, so you’ll never be responsible for an unwanted pregnancy. When you’re 100% ready and resourced to be a loving, committed father, with a woman who’s 100% ready and eager to have a child with you, reverse it’.
She added that, ‘wanting to father a child is not the same thing as wanting to be a parent. Even if you say you want to be a parent, that doesn’t mean you’re ready physically, materially, emotionally to care for, raise, and provide for a child, from birth to adulthood’.
Guess what, men? Vasectomy is safe and reversible. Get one today, so you'll never be responsible for an unwanted pregnancy. When you're 100% ready and resourced to be a loving, committed father, with a woman who's 100% ready and eager to have a child with you, reverse it. https://t.co/tHy1AJ4nJa
— Shailja Patel (@shailjapatel) October 17, 2018
Wanting to father a child is not the same thing as wanting to be a parent.
Even if you say you want to be a parent, that doesn't mean you're ready ~ physically, materially, emotionally ~ to care for, raise, and provide for a child, from birth to adulthood.
— Shailja Patel (@shailjapatel) October 17, 2018
Better questions:
How do I contribute, right now, to raising children in my family and community?
How do I support the parents I know?
How do we make a world where every pregnancy is wanted and supported, every birth safe, and every baby gets what they need to thrive?
— Shailja Patel (@shailjapatel) October 17, 2018
As @lebomashile observes, men abort babies after they're born, by disappearing, or defaulting on their paternal responsibility.
They also abort by abandoning pregnant partners, physically and/or emotionally, instead of stepping up for the work of support and decision~making.
— Shailja Patel (@shailjapatel) October 17, 2018
As @AyadeLeon teaches us, nothing intensifies sexism and gendered labour inequality in a straight relationship like having a baby.
Even men who are deeply committed to marriage and fatherhood are unprepared for the exhaustion, sleep deprivation, 24/7 demands. And bail.
— Shailja Patel (@shailjapatel) October 17, 2018
Every minute, somewhere in the world, a woman dies of pregnancy.
No man has ever died of vasectomy.
— Shailja Patel (@shailjapatel) October 18, 2018
Who said the man is irresponsible? What if he wanted her to keep it but she decided otherwise? What about the woman who failed to ensure that she also take responsibility by asking for a condom, or the morning after pill?
You out here acting like guys are solely responsible pic.twitter.com/US1j2Jn7PU
— El Sihle Shabir (@Iam_Mbhele) October 17, 2018
Men are 100% responsible for unwanted pregnancies.
Because sperm.
No sperm, no pregnancy.
If you want sex to make you a father, then save your sperm for the woman who agrees to marry you and raise a family with you.https://t.co/t4R7YUbTWo
— Shailja Patel (@shailjapatel) October 17, 2018
