“My child’s wellbeing is my number one priority” – Kenyan woman calls off her engagement after fiancé asked her to cut off her baby daddy

A Kenyan woman, Yvonne Kontoz, said she called off her wedding after her fiancé asked her to cut off communication with the father of her child. 

In a Facebook post on Sunday, April 30, Yvonne shared a screenshot of the break-up message she sent to her fiancé after he demanded that she and her daughter also cut links with her ex, the father of the young girl.

According to Yvonne, her fiancé said that he will take care of her daughter, so there was no need to keep her baby daddy in their lives.

However, this was a deal-breaker for Yvonne, who said she cannot compromise on the relationship that her daughter has with her biological father 

“Few days ago I called off my engagement…wuuueh, nyota yangu ni kama pastor Ezekiel ameenda nayo jela. My fiancé was good, he loves me, has no problem with taking care of me and my daughter fully but there are things I can never compromise no matter how good you are to me…And one of them Is the relationship My daughter has with her father,” she wrote.

“That has always been my rule. I broke up with my baby daddy but he didn’t Break up with his child. The bond my daughter has with her dad is something I can never compromise just to make the man I’m dating feel nice

“My Child is loved, my daughter is well taken care of, my little Girl has a Father, a very responsible father and I cannot Break the bond they have just to get married or to fit your needs.

“I also understand many men date bitter single mom’s who are willing to even change their children identity to that of the new man they are dating/married to. Many single Moms even change their sim cards…in worst cases, others even neglect their kids to make their lovers happy…

“Napenda mtoto wako vile nakupenda”is a narrative I barely buy…My Child is to be respected, she’s already Loved. So denying my child her Fathers love just to make you happy can never be me!”