TVC presenter, Morayo Afolabi-Brown has responded to clarify things after her stance on preventing child abuse went viral and earned her criticisms.
Morayo, while speaking on her breakfast show, Your View, said she doesn’t allow her husband to bathe their daughter due to the increasing rate at which fathers now sexually abuse their children. She, however, added that she trusts her husband completely but she wasn’t taking chances.
Her statement blew up and led to a debate. Some criticized her saying she has indirectly disrespected her husband and called him a paedophile, others reminded her that her daughter was her husband’s child too so he should be allowed to care for her. Some told her that if she wouldn’t let her husband bathe their daughter, then she shouldn’t be allowed to bathe their son.
But there were those who defended Morayo by pointing out that there are fathers who rape their daughters and those fathers are usually trusted by their wives which is why they were willing to leave the father alone with the daughter. They added that abusers usually seem innocent and no woman ever wants to believe that her husband is the type of man who would abuse their daughters, yet it happens all the time.
In the midst of the furore her statement created, Morayo has responded to set things straight.
She started by saying:
My husband is not a pedophile, he’s a highly responsible, decent man. He can never do anything to hurt any of his children.
She proceeded to add that her statement isn’t about her husband specifically but about those women whose husbands abuse their daughters yet they bury their heads in the sand because they do not want to be associated with the stigma.
She added that children need to be taught boundaries and how to demand that their bodies and personal spaces be respected.
Psychology has told us to teach children to respect their personal spaces and ensure that family members don’t come too close.
We need to define what is too close as a child.
So, I’m glad the conversation has started, I’m glad we’re talking about it. Let us understand that these are real life issues that are happening.
Morayo shared the video with a caption that further served to give clarity to her point.
Listen to Morayo’s explanation in the video below.
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I will normally not do this but I feel I should respond. It’s painful that people think I would in anyway suggest that my husband is a “potential abuser”. Sad. The truth is that the show allows us to state varied views which should be respected and understood. So understand this, there are women who have used their life to vouch that their husbands would never abuse their daughters yet we see it happen. Let’s make it easy for those women to speak up. Let’s make it easy for girls to speak up about their abusers, even if it’s their father! @tvcconnect @kemiolunloyo @tmospeaks @opes_world @lindaikejiblog @mariamlonge @beeceeugboh @yenikuti @mobolajiolawuyi @omokheowa @tmospeaks @akashatnymat @yourviewtvc @oluwaloninyo @dammyolaiya